Responsible parenting: Create memories, not expectations | Austeja Landsbergiene | TEDxRiga

This hits all the points. Thank you for this.

Coming out of Foster care at 18 I only ever knew strict discipline and staying close cause God forbid I disobeyed my Guardians... These comments give me comfort that I'm not alone when unlearning toxix behaviors.


I was diagnosed with PTSD and GAD Anxiety ..

I need all the help I can get to over come my trauma so I'm not passing it on to my three beautiful children.

really touched 🥺

Congratulations, Austeja, This talk is the best I have listened to about raising children. I have been looking for your book in English ART, HEART AND SCIENCE OF BRINGING UP A CHILD, but I haven't found any copies available. Where can I buy one?

Did the doctor asked u to make 4 kids 😅and then cringe after that

Definitely a female point of view is refreshing. We live in a demanding society and connected competitive world.
Kindness is good but expectations are important.
The world doesn’t care about your feelings but results. I wish it wasn’t this way, but it is definitely competitive.

I definitely bawled the whole video.

This is powerful stuff. I am retired and I can't watch this all the way through. It's too painful to watch as l have only horror memories growing up. Yet there was one who spoke kindly of me. That was my only happy memory, but it was enough to carry me through my childhood and to do reasonably well in life.

Despite l have done as well as l could be, I am still extremely frightened to visit that dark spaces of my past. I have to block myself out all the time and immediately. I flee from them. That is the only way to keep me focus looking forward.

Jeez I did not expect this to make me cry

Gracias por suscribirte❤❤❤❤

I really meant it.

Jessie Smith

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Make it your goal to help your children to love God. Then they will act wisely even when they are not with you. Just as God teaches by example, teach your children to love God by your example.

Oh my God, she is just amazingggggg

09/03/2023
Responsible parenting: Create memories, not expectations | Austeja Landsbergiene
Jadi ceritanya tuh tentang cara membuat kenangan dengan anak, jangan beri ekspetasi ke anak, lalu sebenarnya anak kecil itu ga pernah menyerah untuk mencoba hal baru, mereka tidak kenal gagal karena ga ngerti juga, tetapi hanya ortunya yang tau, terus orang tuanya mencoba segala hal untuk anak anaknya supaya dilihat oleh orang tua lain, padahal anaknya hanya menginginkan hal biasa aja, terus lakukan kebaikan kepada anak anda setiap harinya supaya mereka mengingat apa yang ada lakukan, bantu mereka, puji mereka, katakan I love you sebanyak mungkin, supaya mereka mengingat apa yang anda lakukan kepada mereka saat mereka sudah dewasa nanti, oleh karena itu jangan takut untuk belajar parenting, karena dengan parenting membantu anak anda menjadi lebih baik di masa depan, dan jangan takut apabila anak anda gagal, biarkan mereka menentukan hidupnya sendiri yang perlu anda lakukan sebagai orang tua adalah melakukan kenangan baik kepada anak anda supaya dapat diingat selamanyaa seperti itu yang bisa saya ambil dari ted kali ini sekian dan terima kasih

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The idea is good but the tone is very dramatic 😅

All of these parenting ted talks are making me cry. Thank you! Very nice

It is the best, I've ever heard. Thank you!

After 6 years I'm listening and crying!...She was great 👍 👌

I created many memories for and particularly with my kiddos. It will NEVER be something I regret. I embrace those memories now as I am in the winter of my life here on earth.

Wow wow wow, I wish every single new parent were required to hear talks like this. Thank you!

Very very valuable... thank you...

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "He is not of us who does not have mercy on young children, nor honor the elderly" (Al-Tirmidhi).

She speaks beautifully.

If I could give my parents some advice without fear of getting yelled at. I’d tell them to have patience even though it’s hard, put your own disappointment of me aside because I could feel that as if it were my own. Don’t push me to be perfect because I fear the expectations. Tell me how to behave but leave your own preconceived feelings out of it. To parents and parents to be, children are more smart and perspective then you realize. They are capable

All I ask is that my 10 year old cleans up her messes

We are sinful human beings raising babies, toddlers, adolescents and teenagers, all birthed from sinful human beings. Love, hugs, touch, encouragement, discussed goals, shared hopes and dreams, helping the child reach and learn knowing they are loved regardless how busy we get providing an income, providing and preparing food, helping with homework, teaching them about themselves and siblings...Learning in spite of difficult teachers etc, all while we are sinful human beings doing the best we can with what we have to work with, loving our children with all our hearts. All this from a single mom of 4, by the Grace of God, I did the best I could.

Masterpiece and magnificent woooords
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I admire your way of talking, super Super Super
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I didn't move a muscle while listening to this. So thoughtful. Every sec worth it.

Such a beautiful talk and person! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and counsel. Parents do play such an important role in one's life, and I have been fortunate that I was, and still am, blessed with the utmost love from my parents, who are such wonderful human-beings. Growing up, we were given freedom to explore, and never reprimanded severely (scolded at times, yes, but not the sort which left one feeling bad about oneself after), and always encouraged to live one's life based on values: kindness, integrity, hard-work, going easy too, as opposed to basing it around meritorial achievement. Plaudits were appreciated, though failures never frowned upon. Just kindly nudges to do better, and to always believe in oneself. So much of who I am today is based on the love I received from my parents - and I shan't deny that an individual harbours certain responsibility too in one's growth. Other's can only do so much - certainly, especially in one's childhood that effect is more pronounced, but I do think that no matter little or grown-up, we must take accountability for our actions. I recall spending much time with myself too in my early years, and I taught myself some lessons; some through learnt experience, and some through intuition and observance. Though, nothing to speak less of the enormous love that was bestowed upon us from the very first day. Grateful to my parents. Love to everyone reading this!

felt like i failed as a mother to my 3yo,i always overreacting.

I don’t disagree with what she said but she failed to meet my expectations 😊😂😅 Besides, I’d like an update on this TEDx post Covid-19. The pressures and threat of illness and the onslaught of daily decisions required to keep kids safe has been enormous. We’ve also played more board and card games than I care to admit. We’ve baked cakes, built fairy house, planted gardens, bought and trained a dog, and she taught me how to play Minecraft. So am I good to go now?

I've started to created a lot of nice memories with my daughter, to let her remember me, to feel the love, to keep a nice relationship with her. I've never to ask how's to result at her life, just would like to know what's happen at the school, any happy moment of the day to keep her +VE.

i love it, thank you

I have memories for what my parents have done for me, but none for what they’ve done with me.

i understand. when u have two successful parents, i was expected to be one by the people around, naturally.
but… my parents, they even laughed it off when my results fell back of the class. they were there - always. they show up- always.
they make memories at every corner of my life.
they always remind me to live a life that i want. 😊
thank you, mom and dad.
i see that if we make memories, and let go of expectations.
naturally, your child will strive in most situations … as you have memory in many situations😁😁

Amazed to watch... Nice One❤😍🥳

Please I need one original responsible parent here. I am a parent and I need someone to talk to.

why she is talking like a sect leader?

I love how she explained everything i want to be a parent like this. The world 🌍 would've been a better place if we are a good parent as she says.❤❤❤

Kindness

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I think kindness everyday can be a bit unrealistic. There are so many stresses in life & children not cooperating with simple things can really be triggering. But totally agree with the expectations parents can impose on their kids. I guess it depends on how much awareness one has in parenting. Realising that the way we are placing these expectations is wrong. Letting the child flourish & providing the right sort of encouragement along the way

I have a 1yr old son,I am so fortunate to get to watch this.❤️

exactly - don't tell kids what to do. lead by example :)

Memories being with our parents are the best memories in our life I have many lovely memories too. 💓 . That taught me to be kind and let go of many things. Our stress shod not effect on our kid's life. We have to accept the difference between each child and situation.