Healing vs. Retaliation: Surviving Trauma and Sexual Abuse | Peter and Adenike Harris | TEDxPasadena

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still healing … my anger has gotten worse .. on Dec 20 .. it will officially be 1 year since it happened… I’m trying .. it’s hard . But I’ll keep trying and trying till I reach for the light at the end

What a beautiful relationship between this daughter and father, and a great story of redemption, love and healing. They both have an amazing presence.

This made me cry so hard imma watch the end it this some other day I couldn’t listen to the whole thing 🥹

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What do you do when u have no parents ?

I needed this ❤😢❤🎉🎉 thank you

The light of these two shines through my screen right into my heart. What a great father and what a strong beautiful woman. I wish her love and healing.

I AM NOT DOING ANY SHOW DO YOU IDIOYS UNDERSTAND I AM NOT DOING A COOKING SHOW FOR ANY ONE I AM NOT DOING A REALITY SHOW I DON'T EVEN WANT TO SEE A CAMERA IF YOU COME TO ME ABOUT A SHOW I WILL PUNISH YOU BRUTALLY YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.

Hearing “you’ve reclaimed your life now live your life” immediately put tears in my eyes it’s something I didn’t know I needed to hear

So glad for you Ade <3
And also slightly heart breaking because I don't have a father to turn to in this, it was also my step-dad that caused abuse but no support from my Dad, and hear me going "woe-is-me" I'm not meaning to express this in a way that's oh poor me, but I kind of do feel this. Feels so glad that exists but also sad I don't have this support, because it's really helpful! And much harder without this support from parents. <3

I have done a lot of healing and am so proud of me <3 and will continue to... 12 years in of healing, have come a long way <3
However support and family to help this, is so helpful in this type of healing <3

YOU ARE AN ISPIRATION TO ME. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH IN YOUR JOURNEY FORWARD!

I did this. When i told, my dad was planning on offing my abuser. But i begged him not to. That i dont want him locked up. He listened to me.

I have been abused by my grand grand when I was kid, and I don’t know when it’s started but I know when it’s ended. At my 5 years old when I found the courage of talking

And no you cannot let go easily. You don’t live in the past but you are forever fragile and YOU need to find way and PEOPLE to protect you and you feel secure forever.

And never ever let go this priority.

I refuse to discuss my SA w any and everyone…only trusted select ppl

This is very hard. She chose to get it clarified about the actual fatherhood.. love them both... it is boldness... Other than this, She is beautiful, well dressed..

Im sorry but the stepfather would have to get the broomstick treatment no exceptions

Flamingo MySpace with lights of vapor ash of fire

Gf went through stuff like this, so I'm about to watch all of the videos so I can try to help her with it

Sorry I don’t sleep ❤

Thank you for sharing. Very uplifting and encouraging. Kept the focus on you. Amazing.

Amazing story! I had goosebumps thinking about my own father

So powerful. The energy they are radiating is incredible. So much honesty, vulnerability and connection. Thank you, it’s healing me.

Their abusing resurrected Jesus.

I need help please reach out to me

It's silence and what it costs

Why was this so comical to so many in the audience? Super annoying.

Audience so disconnected. Laughing. Though the father provoked humor, a quiet smile would have been sufficient.

No one ever Gets over it

This is family. This is beautiful.

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I’m healing, my family and the world knows 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Healing can’t be rushed.

Way to go girl! I'm a survivor too! I chose to be well also, without help from family.

Finding the right people to journey with me is the most painful traumatic and exhausting experience that it makes healing harder to gain

For all men out there’s. You are not alone. I survived and you will too. Stay strong

I love this father

I am a gma and I have always thought I would get revenge if anyone hurts my granddaughters. However this makes me think and ponder. What a waste to get incarcerated and then the perpetrator would be free. Hummmm....thinking ..

This was amazing! I love pops ❤everyone needs someone like him in their days ❤

I filed a police report and the police department said they were too busy with other cases and since I was no longer living with my abuser they dropped the case.

I definitely prefer revenge.

Choose to be well ❤️ thankyou so much

"have mercy listen to me y'all" make your beauty

proof that the most important part of communication is listening

These numbers forget about the ones not counted.

I’m so glad you have been on the road to healing and that your father has been by your side. When I told my father what my stepfather had done, he “acted” angry. I know it was an act because he later did the same thing.

This was exactly what I needed to hear. I know my bio father, who I have nothing to do with, will not be my rider and live buddy. However, I have a beautiful friend who is by my side! I’m saddened that I had no family member who thought I was worthy enough to get angry, saddened over, or want to hurt my predator. I wouldn’t want them to act on it but to atleast feel angry or hurt for me, instead of silence. I know Jesus Christ loves me and was/is saddened for me. I am now starting to heal

Beautiful heart in this woman.

beautiful

I’m curious as to why she said don’t confide in someone who will you give a solution?