Case Study - Origin of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Emotional abuse to the maximum. Heartbreaking.

Why was the mother not charged with child abuse; mental cruelty, and neglect neglect? That poor boy. I’m not surprised he grew up with no self worth and with behaviour problems, he was treated like an outcast. Why do teachers and the authorities go along with narcissistic mothers?! Such a sad case.

This child needs a bit of love and support, probably years of counselling to undo some of the damage, mental cruelty and neglect shown by his evil mother. It’s no wonder he’s got personality problems.

The tragedy is no one stepped in to help this poor child. Not the teachers, family, friends or neighbours. Shameful ignorance shown by everyone who must have known this child was suffering and needed protection. But, sadly, the mother holds all the power, this is wrong and needs to things need to change.

I guess the worst part of this is that even the world outside of his family seemed to fail him constantly.

I have a story that makes this look like a cake walk ! I wish I could find a way to connect with you Dr Grande. It’s not about me but someone I was very close with for 10 years.

Wow. This poor person, Thomas.
His mother, what a NUT.
His father, useless.
I’m glad Thomas got help.

I'm thinking, as the story unfolds, this patient is lying. I'm wondering what story his sister would tell of her own experience in that family. But of course the patient's story can largely be true as told; just difficult to understand such a cutoff of affection from mother to child.

This is so sad. Thomas had evil parents. Sorry for using that word. He had horrible parents especially the mother

I have ZERO compassion for narcissists.

Wow.... Pushing the limits of believability.

This is a wonderful format Dr. Grande, because you explain how parents with untreated mental disorders can severely affect a child causing a new generation of dysfunctional parents. I think the world needs to hear more case studies like this to give us all a better sense of compassion and empathy for those with a mental health diagnosis, particularly the difficult ones like NPD. It's so easy to demonize destructive people without having a bit of the insight that your case studies provide. Thank you!

I wish mothers and or parents could be charged with abuse for cases like his. Thomas deserves some sort of compensation and mother CONSEQUENCES for the abuse is UNBELIEVABLE. My god 8 pm? She didn’t want him and kept him physically beneath her. Makes me so angry for him. The babysitter and father are responsible for enabling this too

Sounds like how Harry Potter was treated

Really interesting mote case studies

Imo, the diagnosis of Thomas was child abuse

Some people should not have children.

I am recovering from a 34 year marriage to a vulnerable narcissist, which was ended by the narcissist nine months ago. Dr Grande’s work has been instrumental in my recovery, as has been Sam Harris’ philosophy on free will. Though survey statistics show that most would disagree with Harris’ philosophy, it has spared me from months or years of anger and pain. I know that the good person I married is still in there somewhere, hijacked by a disease I did not know existed until I began trying to figure out what happened. If you are struggling with anger, blame, etc, I encourage you to give it a listen. And of course stick with Dr Grande too.

I want to know what Betty looked like.

If the stories are true, the mother was a complete maniac.

Dr Grande, please google a Psychology Today article, The Testosterone Curse, part 2. This explains the connection between high testosterone and low cortisol with narcissism. If it is true narcissism, there is this chemical, genetic connection. Most likely this man you are profiling has a narcissistic parent, probably mom or even both of them. This man you profiled was obviously extremely emotionally abused.
There is a difference between a true narcissist and someone with narcissistic tendencies.

Horrific!!

Horrible evil mother. Poor Thomas 😳

Oh my gosh this is scary. I spend time crying & praying for my daughters salvation

You treated my brothers better than you did me. 100% false.

Jealous behavior towards her children. I was hoping this wasn’t the case

Make people think we have done something to her with the mysterious ambiguous “you just don’t know”

Then lie back paddle
Then the gaslighting.

So tired and planning to move on.

This diagnosis gives incredible insight into the human condition--and is sad...

The poor guy didn’t stand a chance every one around him was abusive toward him and dysfunctional , I mean a babysitter? At 14 ? That was younger than him and assaulted him with a belt because he wouldn’t go to bed ? And he gets charged with assault for defending himself and treated like a criminal by everyone even the judicial system ? Wow and then his mom wants him to be incarcerated for this incident until he’s 18 ? Wo … then his dad eventually runs off with this so called babysitter?
Insanity and seemingly no way out of it even the counselor who diagnosed him …. Like I said poor guy

I can't tell you how impressed I am with the clinical analysis that Dr Grande gives to these case studies! Inherent in this analysis by Dr Grande was compassion for this poor wounded soul who was raised by unkind, cruel and unloving parents. Not only did he suffer abuse but also got a diagnosis for acting out what he learned... So sad and such a great statement on what this unfortunate person suffered.

Damn I thought I was screwed up
Woww

Those parents are lucky he didn't murder them...parents forget, eventually these kids grow up and can even be in charge of your own care lol! Poor child...wish he had some empathy growing up :/

Poor Thomas, terrible parents, specially terrible mother, selfish and careless, I hope he can resocialize and have a happy live

I like Thomas. He seems like a nice guy wronged by everyone around him.

The parents' treatment of "Thomas" was simply reprehensible. It appears he had no advocate at all. I assume this emotional abuse would damage a child. I would have explored depression as a possibility given his irritable affect. I would be more interested in a case in which the narcissistic child came from a normal, loving home. How does that happen?

Poor Little boy, got “The Cinderella Treatment”, his entire childhood .

What a nightmare!
I pray GOD helps Heal his Heart.♥️

I would say my mom and son are narcissistic. I may be too

Great alternative format

Good and interesting content Thankyou

Classic case of parents passing their dysfunctional upbringing and traits to their children and thereby perpetuating their trail of destruction and misery to others

Fred ran off with Betty
Wow!

I am curious to know why did his father complicit with the narcissistic mother ???????

Wow! That mother is evil! She just wanted a separate life from her son. She done ANYTHING to not be active or next to him. That’s awful 😢 He was a ghost in that house, how painful to hear 😔😭😞

I don’t understand what the son done wrong here? He endured years of abuse and took a belt off someone about to assault him! He didn’t defend or hit her with it?

My daughter look like Narcissists and she seprated with my husband 2 yrs,she's my husband golden child ,how I get better he broke me out and all family dump

narcisism=controll

Please cover this case again. A longer version would be nice.

Problem is that hes a narcissist, so they lie and victimize themselves. This is HIS side of the story and there is probably alot more to it, bcs most of this doesnt make sense. I understand bcs my daughter does the same. Her side of the story and the truth are never the same, always leaving out key (incriminating so to speak) information

People in the comments instantly feeling bad for this individual need to realize that a victim narcissist knows how to play the victim above all else. The usefulness of case studies like this is questionable because it’s entirely through the lens of a completely untrustworthy person. Who knows what really happened.

Betty calling the cops when he grabbed the belt from her hand is a sign of something. Her ending up in a relationship with the father. Yeaaaah. Another red flag of something.
The mother was doing her best to ensure she destroyed her own son's life with serious intent. She was controlling and wanted him out of a job from the jump.
Encouraging him to take jail time when he didn't have to is INSANE. The lawyer should have immediately prevented this and pointed out the mother's interference. Especially as it built a case for her clients behavior.

Yea! Please continue with this format. I am interested in these everyday cases. I gained a lot of insight from this video.

Special teratment and isolation, with no one to think about but yourself. How could you not become narcissistic?

I hurt for this young man. There was no one protecting him and loving him when he was a child. Those parents and the “babysitter turned love interest to the father” identities should be outed so others will be aware of who they really are and shun them.
I know this can’t happen, but I wish it could.
I hope he has or will be finding a kind support system and people in his life that truly care for him.