Let's Talk About Extraverted Sensing (Se)

What does "living in the moment" look like for you?

INFP Being in the moment: For me it feels like I am totally present with someone, often in listening situations where people are being very vulnerable with what they share, trusting me as a confidant, as a deep listener. Or on rare occasion, like on a dance floor one-on-one, with a beloved and it feels like we are in sync, experiencing timeless time, or flow, losing my sense of self while simultaneously feeling like more of my self and whole.

I't cool to hear how you experience Se and what benefits it brings. I am an INFJ and I try to develop Se more, but it's so draining. The thought of having to take on tangible tasks is just making me want to curl up and stay in bed all day. That said, if I did stay in bed all day, I'd probably worry about all the things that I have to do still and then try to distract my brain by making up stories or picturing ideas and getting lost in fantasy. And by the time I am energized from all the adventures I have experienced and concepts I've developed (while staying in bed), the daily tasks are still there, mocking me. Even stupid things like filling up the gas tank is something I put off until I get really stressed about probably stranding somewhere and then I HAVE to do it. It's simply one miserable, soul-sucking task after another.

I feel uncomfortable that she's imo overconfident about the cognitive function hierarchy theory, but okie dokie. Trying to hear her out but that was a distraction for me.

A rather well done explanation I would say! Because of this video, I am now certain that I am not an Se Dominant. Thank you.

I agree that the online tests results are unclear and might not be correct. Right now, I'm struggling to find my own type lol... could someone help? what should I do? Thanks in advance!

I’ll do better next time🤞

Yes again please.☺️🙏❤️

Ok, now I'm sure I'm not an Se dom because I heard that if you try to type yourself, you might be wrong and you can very well be the opposite of who you think you are, but I can't relate to Se doms at all, so I'm probably not my opposite type..

Se is a side of me that I'm in a love relationship but don't know how to bring it up.

I love to sing freely and dance sometimes even I can't stop myself from moving my body or feeling the music emotionally and other crazy Se stuff that I feel like doing but the unexpected possibilities just cripple me. I've quit drugs more than a couple of times just because I fell for the maybe if I'm high/drunk/tripping I won't feel the heaviness but it never worked out in the long term.

I would love some Se friends but just thinking about it got me uncomfortable... I'm out of breath I just want to live.

Some ''intj'' opening up out of the blue.

This is my first introduction to ESFPs but I can say, in response to what you said about the verdict of you online, that you have given me a permanently good impression of this type ;) It also helps me understand some of the girls I desperately tried to understand and be with at parties in my youth haha, always running away and leaving me in my super chill mode (I'm an INFJ).

"I'll live in the moment later; i'm cooking up here."

-Intuition users

Omg im a korean subscriber and so surprised u lived here for more than 2 years. Hopenyou come again❤❤❤❤ _ENFP korean subscriber😊

I am an INFJ and my dad and sister are se doms. I literally seem to use and trust more my se inferior and love sport than trusting my ni at times.
Se holds me to the ground and because of my family i lived by the positive and negative sides of se doms. It made my own more seen and i use it a lot, but problem...i tend to do a lot for the moment instead of planning, but where you do it for happiness, in my life it can be intentional waisting time to do important things.
However, my se gives me my playfulness and where as we are all complex in the growth of a cognitive function on a scale, i can also feel like a kid who needs a lot hugs and things like media or food when im stressed and then i hurt my ni knowing the consequences hard and feel bad.

My se is also the reason, why im very ususal and romantic...im impressed of styles, looks, colors like you said, a big wow in the eyes candy like. I hate the constant infj videos, im not a unicorn, i can be grounded and wise too.
But im not a guru, i can dance, have humour, i like to socialize through fe and with emotions and differing to your se-fi, my fe works with se and i tend to go where good friends go or meeting lovely people in sport clubs, cinema etc.
Its like a click in my head from ni watching to real se engaging for some hours and i often think, too much infps thought they were infjs.
I dont live only by ni, i have another functions which balance me out and im also very happy to see an se video from you, because with it i can understand and grow with my se more :)

Its the same in media not only about Se users, but ni users.

I would feel ill with being constantly connecting data or only be serious and watching others. I engage with fe and can be very athletic, happy, in the moment, impulsive, acting on actual impulse, buying things i do not need...and simply feel connected in life by feeling my body.
My se inferior is a bit different, i can not take 100% sensory details, im much more sensitive. I love massages, joking, hugging...its like it said...giving a 3 year old kid during stress, sadness simple things. It seems like im immature, but my se inferior also makes me like understanding through time, that what often infjs seeks against melancholy would be living in the present moment and deciding to be happy. In the moment itself there is no worry, you have control over it.
Im sad, i learned to come into action like going barefeet to go out of my head or thoughts, it helps a lot.

I can understand se too, i only use it not 24/7, its more hours like in energy. Se is also where mistypes with ISFJs are easy to see. Se itself learn visual spatial and must experience and do things practically to learn. So in reality, even if Ni users read books, our se need to implement and ask, if things we read are realistic or needed in life too. Im not the best in school and because i seem with fe and ti near ISFJs, im penetrated with si details i find boring and unnessesary, especially for my own life.
Se likes own experiences and asks too, what from school is really important...im bored a lot from only sitting, i only show it not so fast like se doms.

Se doms (often enneagram 7w6s) especially with si teachers or therapheuts often get a false ADHD diagnosis only because they dont grip se or ne and how important adaptability for new stimulating things is. Se doms "could" study and read, but is has to be like sport, like doing with hands or 5 senses. Also art is not a NT or NF thing, art can be a lot. Se could be photographing, painting and have the talent to improvise which most people have not. Se is not only related to bad food choices or sex affairs and partying, se can be anything sensory related in the world and its like seeing chances everywhere, where every other function would need or seek happiness through other things, which are often harder to fulfill.

Yes se can be obese, but also athletic, it can be cooking or eating fast food, it can photograph marriages or nature, it can yell and it can give laugh and joy to everyone.


Its on you, what you do with it ;)

LG Alina

I really like this video. Could you do one on each of the functions? Since it wouldn't be your top function, maybe include an interview with someone who has it as their top function along with your knowledge of the function.

INTJ: Being an Ni dom is fun until you walk into a tree branch.

INFJ this se thing is soo hard for me...thank you so much for this tho truly enlightening and very helpful🤔🤯😮 mind-blowing we are like polar opposites lol!

i think im an INFP but i also think i live in the moment a lot

that need for people while having an experience would be more essencial for estp? once they have Fe in their functions?

ISFP just living in a beautiful place is amazing

I’m an INFJ and I find that in my 20s “doing things” is helping my mental health so much like as simple as walking, driving around and seeing different sceneries, cooking, etc rather than just sitting for hours watching TV, unless the show/movie is my interest, I get so bored by activities that requires me to just sit and and watch and not even talk lol. It hurts my head so much. Every now and then I have to explore and do something new, but most of the SE things for me don’t require too much socializing

I came here because I don't have an Se function and had trouble understanding it.

And as someone without it, I feel like I'm in a math class trying to digest this 😂. But your video truly helped! Thank you so much. Now I can explain things better to others.

An Ne dom here ✌🏼️. Btw, this reaffirmed my believe that I should date an Se dom.

And I'm embarrassed to say this, but my version of living in the moment is very costly. Coz I kept on changing, wanting, and inventing new things as an Ne dom. Guess I need to just accept it. Goodbye, my money. Not that I care too much about it. Though it bothers my family and friends because they thought that I'm wasting money on useless things all the time.

"Out of sight, out of mind." = "Object Permanence".

I’m thinking the worst example was Lindsay’s tabloid era in 2004-2007 ish

Being an INTJ-A the extroverted sensing is my inferior function, so this is about as far from relatable as it gets, but I still found this kind of wholesome. Ultimately you are what you are, and no one can be all things to all people. Every type has it's weaknesses and we can work to consciously manage them, to a point, but you can't be something you're not.

My son is probably esfp. I will call him rather than text him when he grows up then (he's 5 now). Well, it seems he will grow up into a party person, eh? As a deep conversation seeker i early realized he's not gonna talk a lot to me, only lying in bed before he goes to sleep. He values sensory experience, he IS a party.
Being a rather energetic infj i still cannot enjoy so much distraction and fun.

This is how I found out recently that I was mistyped, i was trying to force long-term planning in my life because I thought it would get me where I want to go as fast as possible, but I've gotten to use my Se more and now I've started doing things and thinking later and I only really thought about it later.

For example, while trying to fix the chain strap on my purse with clamp thing(🗜❓) and using an open flame to seal it up so it wouldn't break anymore seemed like the natural decision to do and first try I did singe my finger so then I got out some tongs( to hold it near the flame. 🔥

Upside, i accomplished what I wanted which was fixing my purse but downside is that I need to treat the burn on my finger 😅

But life feels so much more exciting not witholding the SeFi anymore. And that's how I know I made the right choice to really understand who I am and pay attention to my feelings and values and stop overplanning everything because I was terrible at it and kept pretending that I wasn't because I wanted to be taken seriously for once. But now, i just don't care about other people's opinions of me, and those tests did not have any part in getting me to this conclusion 😊

As an INTJ with anxiety, the real world scares me and I admire your ability to enjoy it

In 2 minutes I could tell that you are nowhere near as shallowly focused on whatever is in your immediate experience as you say you are. So there's that. Nice try though.

I can't tell if I use Ne or Se to support Ti. I'm severely introverted so if I have Se it's a little hard to notice.

Thanks, I’m a INTJ and have had problems with Se my whole life so I’m trying to work on it with my ISFP wife…. I need to be more fun! And do things lol… and talk to people….ugh… I’m getting better at both though 😁

Long Therm What does That mean 😭 (Se😈)

Wow, really Interisting, se and Their ways (Esfp)

This is the best explanation I've heard. Some people just describe as "being in the present" and leave it at that. But the examples that you used helped make sense of the idea. Thanks for that.

❤❤❤❤❤ Good job!❤❤❤❤❤
Love the Extroverted Sensors.

I am a ESTP, I do enjoy using Se in a crowd and enjoy the activities what I love, but My body gets tired easily, so most of the time I don't have much energy to talk and move around, which made me think I should be an ISTP for a while. But Se is really wonderful! The satisfaction of being a part of it make me feel good all the day, hopefully I'll be in better health so I don't have to be silent in a crowd. Silence can be really boring

wish i was an se user i'm still in highschool and im already worrying about how i will get a nice job later

what exactly does not having a particular function on ones stack effect the different types,

absence of introverted thinking vs having extroverted thinking as an auxiliary function for instance.
what effects are there because of the absence introverted thinking on the stack? aside from the effects of possessing extraverted thinking

i am aware that people are infinitely versatile and unlikely to ever fit perfectly into any categorizing system, but i believe understanding the categories lacking certain functions may also be important

I have always prioritised sports like zumba on weekends coz the instructor is hot and as well as badminton where i can keep smashing and flying
Over spending time with my parents (them keep asking for my presence kinda annoys me sometimes) i usually make it up to them later. They always failed to understand again and again by making it seem like my sports activity is a “crime” in a way like “why cant u spend time with us why do u have to play badminton for 2 hours every week”

Se is really fun when used responsibly, and sometimes irresponsibly as well

I’d love to see a “16 Personalities play Dungeons and Dragons”

Can you do a video on Introverted Feeling? I'm an Fi Dom (INFP)

Living in the moment for me is pondering and contemplating not in a logical per se focused standpoint but in a value-based, moral principle and purpose in life driven standpoint which is assisted by ou tertiary Ti by constructing belief systems around it making it more logical for us.
-INFJ

As an INFJ with Ni dom and Se way down the stack, when you said that you went to south korea out of impulse and didn’t felt any anxiety and fear; meanwhile, here I am listening to you with palpitation and feel like I’ll have panic attacks with the thought of me doing that.

Se is so scary to me... It's because Se is my inferior function and when I get stuck in the Ni-Fi loop I resort to it to pull me out of my head WHICH- BY THE WAY, IS A HORRIBLE IDEA. DO NOT RECOMMEND. I suggest to other INxJs to trigger or stimulate your aux function (INFJs = Fe, INTJs = Te) to get you out of your Ni-Ti (INFJs) or Ni-Fi (INTJs) loops because as Kristin said, it is instant gratification and since it's an inferior function it can lead to us not realizing something we're doing that is stimulating Se is going to be dangerous or lead to addiction because we don't really use it as much as Ni so we just... YOLO it and let's be real we cannot YOLO things the same way Se doms (when Kristin said she went into a spontaneous trip to live in a diff country I almost fainted) That is our NiTe's/NiFe's literal nightmare. So yeah, our inferior Se can help us a lot but when you're stressed wake up your Te/Fe. Se might worsen it in the future and we love living in the future, don't we? I sometimes resort to Se when in a loop still but only to ensure it's accompanied with my Te to get me going and just to shut up Fi so NiTe will start working again.

Hope that helps anyone lurking on the comment section. If you aren't INxJ you can help them by triggering their Fe or Te like for INTJs (still depends on a person) you can suggest them this plan or this method or ask them what they're going to do with their problems or listen to them talk about it! For INFJs take this with a grain of salt because I'm speaking only for the few INFJs in my life but listening to them talk about it or giving them something that makes them find words to talk about what's in their head or reassuring them that they aren't bad people for choosing themselves is a good way but I'm not too sure, INFJs if you guys read until here, help me out (or watch Kristin's vid on how INFJs feel the most loved)

Aaaah...am so glad i discovered this channel! You're so good at explaining/describing things. ❤️

As an infp using my Se makes me so relaxed especially when I go out for a walk I try to be in the moment as much as possible

Dance floor, not conversation