Brené Brown: Vulnerability, not over-sharing

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.5 percent people of the world r dead for me..

I’d love for her to study shame in relation to race…that’s prevalent.

The secret is we are all pretty similar. We have regrets and terrible thoughts. People really aren't that complex. We hide the ugly, we don't really want to let others see us break. But the truth is we all do. Sometimes we laugh about it later like it wasn't a big deal but is was at that point in time. The best way I see it is just to find those little moments that you can give a little away. See how they react and if they handle it well maybe let them know a bit more. My honest opinion is if it is a negative trait about you that effects your relationship with an individual, then they deserve to know what it is. Most people really aren't that terrible especially when they start to see your similarities. That doesn't mean we don't need help following through with this. Understanding the concept and actually using it can be hard. It might seem counterintuitive to people who have had a few bad experiences but it's amazing how many people will embrace you when you open up just a little.

She is smart. However, you do have to be careful as there are predators out there & being "vulnerable" with them is not good. A lot of people trusted Ted Bundy. I almost got killed by someone I trusted in a martial art. A colleague took care of someone paralyzed from a local training round of jiu jitsu where he was likely training with someone who was unsafe, who he trusted.  

At work, innovation comes from requesting input as much as being vulnerable. The safety literature shows the way input is requested, or not, determines whether people speak up. Without specific mechanisms to show people management wants input, people don't give since speaking up with management that does not request it does not lead to innovation, the result is retaliation from patriarchy.

I totally agree

vulnerability wo boundarie sisn tvulnerabiltit ydont be fauzzz

The people who do cry are okay too. We all have that trauma to process

Must watch for all leaders of corporations and government departments.

That's a great distinction!

They shouldn't be spying to get at people's vunerabilities then expecting forgiveness either.

she means honesty, not vulnerability. be honest and truthful. vulnerable conditions are left subject to attack and without protection. she's not using the word vulnerability right 🤦‍♂

It's not about sharing or being vulnerable, it's about being honest - being emotionally honest and consequently transparent.
Vulnerability is the "feeling" experienced while being honest but at the end of the day the goal is to be honest and risk it all for your truth, simple!

How do you know if you are tapping out or just getting out of an impossible situation?

Thanks for the video

She didn’t answer the question or she thinks people crying is always crocodile tears when it would be deemed inappropriate.

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This interviewer is as dumb as a rock. Lol.

I really love her

I think a simple definition of vulnerability would clear up things nicely - instead of dancing around the word here...

Maybe folks in the comments can help me understand. What she’s saying sounds cool in a vacuum, but I can think of so many situations where vulnerability is weaponized and can have real world negative impact on a person’s livelihood or relationships. When speaking of vulnerability, discernment would seem to go ahead and hand with it. I keep thinking of the old-school Biblic warning of not throwing pearls to swine. How many times have people’s words been used against them? Again, this just feels like it’s in a vacuum.

If we don’t fully comprehend to understand & respect feelings of one another a team would never work to build each other up. Actions would just be answering to each other out of just being told.
Huge difference in productivity & how everyone shows up when unspoken words held in get heard and resolved.

This woman is a man 😂

I like this lady

Stay brave. Stay human. Keep Leaning..🕊🤍💫💞🙏

Freud. Jung. This is all recycled. It's great stuff but we all must carve our own path. Vulnerability is not fleeing.. not fighting... Not doing anything. Just not acting on anxiety. Anxiety is fear. Shame is fear. Therapists like Freud already jave mapped this out to the nth degree. I suggest everyone go read Freud for his psychoanalysis and Jung for his shadow work. We all must investigate our shame.. our fear. Abuses create shame. Shame creates fear. Fear creates anxiety. Anxiety fools us into acting... Fight or flight... When no action is the best action. Or maybe the best action is to ignore the fear and just get back to enjoying your 5 senses and the random creative thoughts in your head. Anxiety is survival. The absence of anxiety is living.. being happy.

I WANT GO MEET HER!!! In person. She is a beastly lady💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

She leans in and it gets so intense. Totally locked in.

I AM BRAVE

Irony: she disguises her own vulnerability with her heavy vocal fry affectation. It is not her regular voice, that is for sure. This is her armor.

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Vulnerability + emotional maturity =badass

How is the host clearly displaying honest vulnerability but then simultaneously and ironically struggles to understand vulnerability?!?? 🧐

Totally correct: vulnerability is not about pouring out, but about not blocking in

this is so duckiing oabtract.

I will peel back the flesh upon my forehead and let them peer into the stinking, black-tar spiderhole where my third eye would be.

Authenticity.

Stay brave

Healthy boundaries are what allow someone to be vulnerable.

Mindfulness. Emotion comes and goes.

Be authentic!

The hardest part of being vulnerable, is knowing whom to open up to. That requires a lot of discernment and a very high level of social intelligence.

If you want innovation, don't fire innovative people when they fail.

Aaah but when you feel exposed or at risk the brain takes over and goes into fight flight or freeze, inevitably bringing out emotions that match accordingly. Those emotions generally do not come out as ‘controlled’, in other words the brain has not gotten the politically correct emotions with boundaries memo.
Not sure she makes sense to me…you are either vulnerable-expressing fears, anger, tears or you’re putting a politically correct boundary on them. Or worse yet waiting to express yourself in gossip and slander.
Can a workplace be a place to teach and learn integrity and vulnerability…I think not, you have to come in already armored with both.
Sorry but I think she is teaching pc and unfortunately integrity is not always an ingredient of pc.
Integrity does not equal greed, self serving motives…if we first care about others and not about the pocket book or how ‘good’ we look we shan’t need pc!
God said it best take care of the least of these…are we really???, until we do all the pc vulnerability will be for not.

She's not a nice person, be warned. She is very anti-white and blatantly expressing her CRT interests at a function my wife and I attended. Shaming white kids because of their color, she should be ashamed of herself, we and many others walked out. She's not what this country needs at this time.

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Can I translate this video and post it on my channel?

Thank you so much, Brene for helping us feel accepted for our vulnerabilities. I feel like a walking billboard for mental illness, which caused severe oversharing.... yikes!? Haha... Uh, Thanks for listening to me whine n act a fool for 2 years Dear Universe. Now that I'm finally CALM enough lately to begin to understand my mistakes, n foot-in-mouth moments I'm super appreciative to have Peace of Mind that it's all been teaching moments. For the most part I can laugh about it, through tears, but still laugh. No clue how to acclimate to society and rebuild, but I'm patently PATIENT!!!!

Over sharing is such a massive monster these days. Its an addiction people confuse for vulnerability!