The Four Choices to Overcome Adversity | Carrie Koh | TEDxValparaisoUniversity

There's no such thing as a good or bad person. We're all just people doing things that get perceived one way or another by other people based on their own experiences and perspectives.

this really hit home. need to watch again. thank you Carrie

Yup absolutely Carrie owning our emotions is paramount, it can be all too easy to shrug off responsibility but that is also a fast track to disempowering yourself.

awesome talk!

Perfect talk at a perfect time for it, thanks carrie!

I back this so hard. Getting over the shhtty things that happen in life is 100% a choice

This title is very interesting but I am hard of hearing and need closed captions or a transcript to follow along...

this is great.

I have so much admiration for the way this lady chose to honor her littles ones life. Every response we have to something is a choice.

Adversity!!
Is not guilt
It’s aggression

The idea of choosing my own identity is so empowering! It's easy to let a situation or other people define us, but I can see how taking a pause to reflect on who we truly are at our core helps to regain that confidence when people are trying to question our idea of ourselves.

The importance of connection during adversity cannot be overstated. Sharing our struggles with loved ones or seeking support from professionals can have a profound impact on our well-being. It reminds us that we don't have to face challenges alone

Focusing on what is in our control, even when facing uncontrollable problems, is a valuable mindset. It's a reminder to channel our energy and efforts toward what truly matters to us. By doing so, we can find a sense of empowerment and uncover new possibilities.

Creating that bucket list was such a beautiful way for the family to cherish every moment they had together. It shows that even during the most challenging times, we can choose to focus on creating precious memories and finding happiness where we can. Also loved how it created an opportunity for her husbands family to celebrate Elliot as well. So beautiful and poignant

I can relate to Carrie's hesitation to open that book. Sometimes, it's just too overwhelming to face our suffering head-on. It takes time to gather the strength to confront our pain and find ways to cope with it.

The nurse's suggestion to make each day the best day for Elliot is truly inspiring. It's amazing how a simple shift in perspective and a decision to celebrate life can bring so much meaning and joy, even in the face of adversity

The concept of choices in adversity resonates with me. It's empowering to know that even when we face difficult circumstances, we still have choices. Taking ownership of our emotions and behaviors is crucial to navigating through tough times

The story of Elliot's battle with myotubular myopathy is heartbreaking. It reminds me that life can be so unpredictable, and even the tiniest shifts can have immense consequences. Such a stark reminder of the fragility of our hopes and dreams.

The point she made about identity and confidence being tied in was really poignant for me. I've never drawn that connection but it's absolutely true, whenever someone has treated me in a way that doesn't match who I think I am my confidence definitely takes a hit. I guess in those moments I just have to remember who I am and stay true to that.

Carrie's realization that she wasn't alone in facing her hardship is powerful. It's true that bad things happen to good people every day, and I understand how focusing on that can leave us feeling hopeless. I guess knowing that others go through similar struggles can offer some solace and solidarity.

I love the emphasis Carrie puts on how it's the choices we make. Often we can feel powerless and forget that we have options in terms of how to frame things.

What a touching and powerful story! Choosing to celebrate Elliot's life and creating a bucket list for him was truly inspiring.

The choice to take ownership of our emotions and behaviors during adversity is crucial for personal growth and resilience.

It's not always easy to take ownership of our emotions, especially when external factors seem to overwhelm us.

Choosing our identity and defining who we truly are is empowering, but it might not be so clear-cut for everyone, especially in times of hardship.

Focusing on what's within our control during adversity helps us find strength and navigate through challenging situations, but it's not always easy to discern what is truly within our control, and that can lead to feelings of frustration.

The analogy of one tiny shift having catastrophic results in her son's muscle cells is a powerful reminder of how small choices can have significant consequences in our lives.

I really love Carrie's call to shift our focus from "what choice do I have?" to "what choice can I make?" I think it encourages a proactive approach to life's challenges.

I agree that choosing our identity is essential, but circumstances and societal expectations can often cloud our understanding of who we are, especially when it comes from people close to us.

While adopting this proactive mindset can be empowering, we must also recognize that certain situations may genuinely limit our available choices. In those situations all we can do is control our responses to it

I admire that Carrie was able to celebrate Elliots life and invite others in her family to do the same. Reaching out for help and connection can be challenging, especially for people who prefer to handle their struggles in solitude.

For me the take away from Carrie's talk is that even in the darkest of times, there are choices we can make to find moments of joy and meaning.

Gosh this is heartbreaking. I didn't know a TEDx could make me feel so many things. Such a noble thing you're doing here Carrie and I've no doubt it will lead to transformative experiences for many people ♥

While it's admirable to celebrate Elliot's life, I can understand why some people might find it difficult to do so in the face of such heart-wrenching circumstances.

Some really cool stuff happens when we shift our way of thinking about things and I appreciate the way she's encouraging people to approach adversity with determination and a growth mindset.

Wasn't sure when I started this, but really liked it, good info!

this approach to overcoming adversity and making conscious choices is commendable and has the potential to create a positive impact in our lives.

All night I've been watching videos, all night I've been looking for something that'll help me wake up with some clarity tomorrow. Watching this talk and all of her finding purpose and meaning in life, even when faced with such intense challenges... Full on. Thank you for sharing this. Really.

The idea of taking control of our choices is empowering, and it can indeed lead to a sense of agency over our lives.

Carrie's talk inspires us to re-evaluate our choices and approach adversity with determination and a growth mindset 💪💪

I appreciated her emphasis on the way personal leadership has a ripple effect. It's amazing how some people still don't realize our choices influence the people around us.

I think connection is vital during tough times; it allows us to share our burdens and find support from others.

I think it's essential to acknowledge that some choices may not lead to immediate and dramatic transformations. Sometimes it is a slow and arduous process

However, for some people, finding joy in the midst of adversity might seem elusive and not as straightforward as it sounds.

While purpose and meaning can provide a sense of direction, they might not erase the pain or difficulties experienced during tough times.

Nevertheless, finding freedom through choices might not always be attainable for those facing systemic or societal barriers.

There are no Good People

We don’t realise that we have so many choices, Positive and Negative!
Thank you so much for this! ❤️