Therapist Reacts To: Say Don't Go by Taylor Swift *From the Vault* *Attachment Style Tangent Alert!*

I'm the person who craves intimacy and relationship but I'm so afraid of it that I don't participate in it and it hurts

so interesting your tangent about attachment styles!!!

Anxious attachment to a T here! That's why Taylor is always just blowing my mind with how well she knows me 💙👏

I've loved your annalysis and your reaction. Thank you for allí your advices, you're such an angel🩷

This is such a good song and it really just makes me feel bad for Taylor and anyone who feels this way.

I am an INFJ and I am that rare attachment style that you're talking about! Like I do crave that intimacy but I don't wanna get attached coz I believe that everyone will betray me lol

You are so smart! It was obviously anxious attachment style from Harry coz he couldn't handle so much love. So he got away from her & dated fake models ugh

taylor had no business realizing this song while I'm going through a breakup of 6 year relationship. losing the person you used to make plans with. we do love each other but it wasn't working anymore. but "say don't go" was all I could think while packing my things :(

You know, in your "spare" time, I'd like to see you do some kind of compare/contrast of these top tier female mega-stars who hit young. Brit, Gaga, Pink, Tay, Madonna, Christina, Miley- They all share some very distinctive characteristics, and the differences in the outliers are even the same. While I would go further and argue that it could all be boiled down to age, circumstance, opportunity and possibly family of origin- I may be wrong. I also think genetics are hugely at play in all of these women, and nutrition.- SDK

Oh crap. Time to bring up something with my therapist. I didn't realize how "anxious attachment" I was . . . am . . . (I'm poly) continue to be in one of my relationships.

I LOVED your explanation on attachment styles! Will be quoting you in my case study I am writing for grad school --- (Working towards my MSW)

I loved a guy like that who ghosted me after months of dating when we got too close. Earlier this month, after 2+ years of no contact, he contacted me to apologize. Dating men like that is unhappy.

Hi from Brazil ❤

She is a master at embedding these gut-wrenching lyrics into the most upbeat, catchy productions 😭🩵

You know there's other artists out there besides Taylor Swift and Lana Del Ray right? Just thought I would let you know smdh.

I just noticed that you aren't explaining to us the verses, when that's the thing why I keep on coming back to your channel:((

Do now that we don't talk

Will you share the “LA Who am I to love you” for your poor subscribers as well? 🥺

could you do club heaven by nessa barret??

im begging you please do i talk to jesus, lake placid, or put me in a movie!

So many edits!

This song is so sad and relatable as someone who has anxious attachment style. I love watching your commentaries and can’t wait for you to get to the next one…I’d recommend is it over now next…that one definitely follows the same plot

I can also see what I think might have been Harry's perspective or feelings at the time. He has said he remembers crying a lot after his father left his mother and their home. I can bet he did a good amount of begging his father to "stay" or "don't go," but he left anyway. He has probably developed a lot of distrust and to preserve self just lets his partners go as soon as they give any indication that is what they want to do. He doesn't fight for his relationships. He also probably doesn't want to ask anyone to stay or guilt them into not leaving if that is truly what they want. There needed to be a whole lot more open communication, transparency, and vulnerability in his relationship with Taylor. I hope he has learned from the failure of that one and that he's been working on himself and his approach to relationships with his therapist. I also hope he listens to these songs carefully.

I think this was about Taylor deciding to leave the relationship because she was not hearing from Harry what she wanted to and he allowing her to go when all he needed to do was just tell her "Don't go" and that he loved her the same way she did him. It is sad but I think she didn't need to hear "run" from you because she had already figured out her worth and was leaving.

I love this breakdown thank you! Automatic subscribe 🥺

u need to react to cry baby album by melanie.

Random but your intro matches the vibe of 1989’s photo shoot so well

This song really pictured my situation perfectly.
I am currently going through something similar to her experience. I care deeply for someone who is an avoidant and it's so hard because of the lack of communication and pulling back/silence.
I am more of an anxious/avoidant that I have been healing and I have to let this connection go because it's leading nowhere, unless they are ready to heal on their side ...

And I think it's the most painful experience, because you know and feel that they also care and have feelings but they will not show or admit it, or they will act hot and cold, which leads to so much confusion ... 😔

Hi Mendy! Could you please react to if this was a movie by Taylor swift 😊

i resonate with this so much, thank you for this video❤️

Hi Mere. I love your TS videos. Have you ever had dreams involving her? I did last night. She and I were in a cafe drinking coffee (haha) and suddenly realized there was calamity outside and ran out to help. Turned out we were amid the horrible Gaza war and Taylor had ran out into the streets helping people.

Thank you for your take on this song! These 5 vault tracks really came out just in time for my breakup. 😭
You made me realize my ex is an anxious avoidant attachment. It took me a year and a half to realize I will never be what he wants no matter how badly I try to mold myself into this perfect version for him. I think he loved the idea of someone loving him but never saw a future with me to begin with. Sorry for my tangent! I can't wait to hear your take on Is It Over Now?

I wish I can buy your book! Love from the Philippines

I knew you would connect with his song, thanks for the video and insight.
Congratulations on the book!!

really glad i found your accs. I love when reaction vids go deep talking about the lyrics and not just actually watch/listen to the songs

This reminded me that my result in the attachment style test was fearful avoidant and I did not really understand it I just know that it's insecure and I have to work it out. I did not know it was rare, however. I do want the attachment but before attaching I freak out internally and don't do it and for quite some time. It comes from my fear of not getting enough from that person and the fear of not avoiding something that's going to be catastrophic after some time, if you know what I mean. So, I'm always in between deciding not to engage in romantic relationships altogether and finding other stuff to do like studying and always wanting that cuddle from a romanter partner.

Wow you’ve shed so much light on this song which is now one of my favourites. I love your lyric picking it adds such a deeper meaning to the song. And I’ve been there it hurts and Taylor’s words almost perfectly describe it. You and Taylor make the best team together! Thank you for sharing actually made my day.

Thanks for giving more info on attachment styles! would love a video with more info on those <3

you just clocked me so hard with the explanation of an avoidant attachment style lmao 😭 loved this reaction as always

FINALLY. MY FAV VAULT TRACK AFTER NN ET DY TVFN & MIAB

Great video

Oh god, I think I’m one of these types 😬 I’ve avoided relationships for 12 years (I’m 35), and any time I start to get close again, I turn into a mess.

It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, but it’s like you’re uncomfortable being close, but also want that so badly.

Funnily enough, I have pet rabbits, and if I embodied an animal, it would be them.

Mere, Fantastic breakdown! I enjoy watching you with Taylor and the 5 vaults are freaking incredible! Love and light to you 🕯️🥰

I loved your talk about attachment style!! also I would love for you to listen to some of Olivia Rodrigo, I'm not sure if you have already. Especially, there's a song on her new album GUTS called "making the bed" and I think it would be really interesting to see you react to that!

We are always trying to “fix” a person for our likings and it hurts that you fail and feel worthless but we ignored from the beginning they had no intention of loving us 😭

OMG I loved your analysis in different attachments styles. Not only does it fit perfectly with the song but it hits home. Thank you.

I’ve been the Harry in this situation. An ex once quietly said “I love you”, I replied “what?” and he said “nothing” and I left it at that. A guy I had a ‘friends with benefits’ situation with once said “so this has been happening a lot” as if he wanted to talk about what we were and I just blankly stared at him until he changed the conversation. I’ve been called horrible things in relationships - cold, robot, ice queen - but my view was always if I hold a lot back emotionally from partners then when they inevitably hurt or disappoint you, you’ve retained your power over yourself. Everything Mere said about avoidant attachment I related to!

Thank you Mere! I bought your book for my mom, my sister has been absent from our lives for 3 years struggling w addiction. And we’ve been raising her daughter since she was 1 (4 now) and she cried reading your book. I absolutely adore your personality and your way with words. Thank you so much for being you and I can’t wait to keep watching you!

One word, he was immature. I hope he apologised to her later, after he grew up? It’s a human behaviour in some males, and just deemed as normal??? I hope they are learning this. Seen it many times.

It's kinda the little sister of You're Losing Me