How to deal with a smear campaign run by a Narcissist?

u got sanpaku eye. I suspect u to be a narcissist honestly. I suspect dr Ramani to be a covert narc to.

You are wrong.
Old me: trying hard to make them happy
New me: To hell with u.

But it took away 20 years of my life. Lost a lot in this pricess. Only because i did not have knowledge abt narc. I cud not figure out. Narc is the problem not me

How people fall for smear campaigning

Thank you so much for this. I have and am always hearing about smears against me by my partner and her mother and all their family and network here in Sydney. Its terrible and they keep complaining and making issues where there are none. In one incident when I had an online family prayer with the kids as my way of keeping them in touch with me, she butted in and argued and yelled at me in front of them all. From that time we have never had a consistent family prayer and the main argument she raised on that day was "What about me" it was so immature and childish. My first son never comes for the family prayer and is giving an example to the other 2. It is so difficult to overcome these challenges and it has given me high blood pressure, obesity and affected me in every way. It is so emotionally draining that you cannot fight and your kids souls are being lost to the demons that operate in their lives. My poor Jordan and Joshua... How nicely they were doing with my parents and myself. Now one can see them changing every time and see the influence of the demons operating in that house and the witchcraft associated with this narcissim. Its horrible to be a victim of this. May God deliver myself and my children miraculously. Amen

Whai i did was that i never talk negative about the narcissist colleague and continue to be kind which he said i was kind to show that i was better than other .you know the smear campaign soon turn against him and he looking for transfer i pray he does.

I think it's too late for me. 😔

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This is why I’m talking to an attorney. I’m already being gaslit and I haven’t done anything yet. He just senses a change because I’m not being a victim anymore. He’s been telling people that he thinks it’s because of menopause! People who don’t even know me! I didn’t think he could be this way! But everything you say is true! It’s going to get worse. I’m concerned about the finances. He has been in charge of the money for the last 21 years! I know there is a bank account that he doesn’t tell me about. And now I’ve found another credit card. I’ve never looked at these things before. He’s talking to others about me but doesn’t talk to me at all. My heart is hurting. I can’t even trust my family either. Basically I want an attorney to take care of things. We own property etc. He is also a computer consultant so he follows me and checks on me. I know he does. Didn’t even seem creepy until I just told the attorney to be careful because my husband knows computers very well and checks on me. When I said that out loud for the first time I realized how creepy that is. The attorney said that they see that stuff all the time. In fact this one attorney went through a divorce from a man like my husband. Nobody will believe me either. He’s a free diver going to a international competition, he’s a successful business owner and a lot of people know him. I’m in Hawaii so I can’t even have an attorney on my island because it could get back to him. I’m hiring someone in Honolulu so I know information cannot get back to him. I feel safe here because I know we won’t see these messages. I feel how I cannot text, message, email etc because he could find it and use it against me. It’s very isolating. Cannot even trust my family or his. Really I can’t trust anyone except maybe an attorney. A lot is at stake for me. Money is the area that will hurt him the most. I actually wonder now sometimes when a woman gets money from a man in divorce or a man who is being abused gets money from a women (less common but happens) they could be just gaslighting that person when that person perhaps has put up with similar things and wants to get something for all the BS! It’s a crime really but if you aren’t physically abused you have no other recourse! The money….he will probably lawyer up and spend more of our money. I just don’t know yet. Women in my family have been abused for over 150 years! I’m breaking that damn cycle! No more of this BS. ❤

Oh and I swear you live with me! Your videos are what I need when I need it. You are saving my life.

If you just wait people will see who they are on their own. If they get to someone first then your trying to defend yourself just makes you look crazy. Just let people find out for themselves. If they care about you they will come back to you and apologize or at least tell you what they now know. This keeps you from being in the drama.

Thank you.

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The people will not believe , this is how I felt . I think that trying to clear your own name is harder. Instead focus on ones own mental health and trauma healing with therapists. Work on ones self. Maybe those folks that dont believe in you where never true friends.

My narcissist ex did the same with his ex when we got together, he played victim saying she put him down constantly and that's why he had to wear the best of clothes etc.
I realised down the line, he was very materialistic, it had nothing to do with his ex.
I already know he's doing the same with me, but I choose not to react.
I'm glad I left him, he caused too much drama and it was hell. I should have left sooner 😊

I think this is one of the cruelest things anyone can do. I've become afraid to leave my house. I've made an ass out of myself trying to counter their lies. But now I'm in fight mode instead of flight. I'm a good person I just want love and peace.

Half of my smear campaign was in my own family. I saw these people maybe once or twice a year. Thats how much they knew me. They were going by what my mother told them which was based on delusion made up in her mind. She knew NOTHING about me based on reality. They all bought it hook line and sinker. I now Completely understand when you hear of people who detach from family for good and go off on their own. I told a few - I knew who I was and didnt care what they believed. I wasted way too many years concerned about what the rest thought who were making snap judgements about me. Terrible.

Sir, you have no idea how valuable is the information you share with us! Thank you MUCHLY!👌👌

What they'd said of me decades ago, like over 3 (prior too) was truly outrageous (no.more than when I was stuck living at home) then came out their skeletons, frankly I gave a rat's ass either way, if only they knew (keep dreaming) how truly ridiculous they all were, very unimportant persons, it was never going to happen, all victims of someone else's dribbles, as if their outlandish behaviours made one another look good 😝!

I like what you said here. At work I wrote my boss a letter outlining how a smear campaign meeting went. But I want you to know I left that job soon after as I did not see any way forward for me. I never regretted that departure.

Actually the smear campaign is what freed me in the end. A mutual friend heard my ex telling her new supply in public all kinds of horrible stuff about me and let me know. It was like a bubble was burst. The camels back broke. Its been almost a month and 100s of attempts by different methods to get me to engage with her again. No way!

Thanks Brother

Before divorce you have to convince your parents and siblings. You have to give them clarity. You have to inform your relatives about their lies with proof

Narc. younger/charmed old Trustee brother into taking a chance (nothing to lose)spent $90K on 2 unscrupulous attys. in an estate settlement, who smeared me with the local small boutique police department in upscale neighborhood to change distribution of family estate settlement, what's different & difficult my properties were mixed in with the inheritance. Heads up people if your Family has Narcs. that blow money need to cut them off, make no siblings in charge of trust. peace out

I cannot forgive myself for having been so naive and submissive. How could I forgive him ?
No way.
I prefer feeling angry.
Anger keeps me away from him.
It had always been my forgiveness that made me fall for all his hooverings.
No forgiveness.
I had rather remain his enemy.

This is happening to me at work and I cant escape because I need this job. Basically what I have been doing to counter it is just making sure that I perform correctly every time consistently w everyone else i deal w at work. The damage seems like its done though and im not sensing that Im convincing her minions of anything. I do believe it is just a matter of time before people start to realize how she is. A narcissist through and through.

After people hear lies about me from the narc, do they really Not have the Courage or intelligence to just come to me and ask: "... is that true?"
I am glad those people are no longer in my life. They don't deserve my friendship.

My sister did this starting from birth. She made people hate me and I never even knew this was going on until decades later. She altered the course of my life I’m sure of it but that’s OK because so many good things happened that I truly believe would not otherwise have happened. Success is born from isolation sometimes and karma will come for these people.

Good advice - thanks!

Forgiving a narcassist is not easy at least for me. I tried various times that I should forgive my father when others family elders insured on me. Several times I said verbally to others and myself too that yes I forgave him but after few days the pain again emerged and I trashed that forgiveness. Especially when he is not ready to even accept any of his sin. So forgiving a narcassist is a betrayal u did to ur self. I did it many times. But somehow I did not find a closure. I found a desire a string desire of karma type revenge especially after realising my mother psychological murder he did and same pattern repeating with me. Why I m waiting for his bad time. This wait keeps me somehow connected with him.

Trust God over narcissists! They are not above God! Hallelujah Amen 🙏 ❤

Narcissists are predators. They prey on the vulnerable. And the only reason they run a smear campaign is because theyre afraid of being found out for what they are. They will answer to God. No sympathy for narcissists.

I find it difficult because the monkeys are so under the control of the narcissist. Like one person put it they are in narcissistic training. I had to rely solely on Gods help. I was so blindsided by it all. I love your videos,I love your videos they are so helpful. Thanks so much for your time and effort in making them. I know you are helping loads of people. ❤ God Bless you!

What do you do when they go to family,convince people in the community your a bad person, or did wrong,then family know they are abusing,and isolating you,keeping you from your career, coercive control,but they all somehow believe the person is just trying to get justice, they actually protect them by gaslighting me,and denying knowing anything about it,never spoken too about anything, I don't believe there allowed to,very frustrating, and a nightmare situation.

But what if you actually cant let them be gone because your life depends on it? Iam not talking about friends or work, but people in a power position.

Counter the lies with truth: "He/she is a good person but the narcissist is not good so he/she lies a lot on the good person. The narcissist is projecting because he/she really does the things he/she accused others of."

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It’s all about value. Turn your attention and energy inwards and to people who are your people.

And keep a record book of the flying monkeys. Remember that they believed the narcissist lies over your truth.

Whenever they reach out for your help, don’t come running to them. Remind them that they were on the narcissist side. And for that reason alone, they are dead to you.

I had a smear campaign against me at work, by my covert narc ex. The first sign was that some managers/co-workers were treating me differently. I knew that my narc had been feeding half-truths to these people. The thing about narcs is that they ALWAYS slip up, and I knew that would be the case with mine. Sure enough, 2 years later, my division head pulls me in for a chat and says "___ would like you to respect their boundaries", to which I laid it ALL out. What actually happened was that, after 2 years no-contact, my narc ex initiated a conversation with me in front of other colleagues, to which I responded neutrally and then went about my day. They cried wolf to their manager, and their manager took it to my division head, which is something they probably weren't expecting. They then omitted the fact that they approached me. I called it out. They were shut down, and their flying monkeys were spoken to. My work relationships have drastically improved since. The thing that worked for me was giving no reaction and INTENTIONALLY NOT DEFENDING MYSELF UNTIL IT WAS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. I let them run with their narrative until they slipped up.

This is what I do stand strong be confident and think logically and always be true to yourself and others …..and where possible drop subtle hints to other people that you feel you’ve been wronged by the narcissist and how cruel their behaviour has been towards you. And trust me people will see who the trouble maker bully is because these people love to gossip and no one really likes a gossip, and if your lucky enough to leave the narcissist behind for example move home job etc, give it a few years and write a simple direct letter to as many people that the narcissist knows telling them of the bully narcissistic behaviour and how the narc has wronged them as well because sadly karma isn’t always served by god and these demonic creatures go on destroying many innocent peoples lives ❤

What Dr Ramani & H G Tudor say is most true here. Well meaning though many “ counselors “ are they often think you can go toe to toe with a narcissist & win. This is rarely the case. If you truly want to win, you take yourself out of the game & simply not play their game. If you can cut the narcissist out of your life, do that & go No Contact with them. Don’t even be on social media unless you use a fake name. That way they can’t find you to keep tabs on you. Eventually, they will be forced to try to find another victim. People will eventually realize what they are, without you trying to explain your side. That way you don’t look like a pot stirrer. People will eventually get tired of their rhetoric & drop the narcissist on their own. Remember, people in general don’t like to be told how to think about someone else. The narcissist alienates people without any help from anyone.❤

Fortunately, for me, my close relatives did not believe the narcissist. One called me and told me what was being said. I was flabbergasted. This was my sister. It hurt. I explained what had actually happened and they believed me, saying they had noticed my sister had always been jealous of me and, that lately, she had become vicious. It still hurts.

The cognitive dissonance- and the sheer REFUSAL to acknowledge ALL ASPECTS of a situation- shows lack of intelligence, both logical and emotional.

I left my evil ex this week and now he's going g true fri3nds to smear me in retaliation over being butthurt being dumped for not listening and walking away

The narc will approach with a look of desperation in their eyes feigning for some cronies to follow their lead for the one day of fame, before you get the truth out. The cronies will get on board for some cha ching. Chimp change. The lies will spread like wild fire and King shame will have his day. Eventually the truth about the narc is revealed and the reasons for desperation in their eyes.

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Sometimes we can afford to loose. Because the narcissist didn’t think about 1. TIME its effects. 2. FEELINGS things change. I. E. Attitudes and outlook. Example. What’s important to me today might be gone tomorrow. By no choice mind you. Unfair consequences may incur. 3. UNKNOWNS these really boggle a narcissistic person. They just can’t figure out all the details ahead of time. And time heals wounds. Meaning, they can make us feel like crap today, whereas tomorrow they might fail. Just because life changes peoples attitudes on the regular. 😁💯👈🏻

Take the hits, do not care. A year later mention there were some lies and not care.

This usxal9 very well but my son is currently a victim of a smear campaign by his narcissistic ex. With sexual intimate photos sharing them right across social media’s and the world , do this won’t help

Thank you sir 4 ur advice 🙏. I glad 2 know that I m on right path,I m not in touch of any professional....I knew about narcissistic,,a few times ago & I m doing these 2 stragity without telling him anything.

What are your experiences with this?