7 Boundaries You Need To Set in Your Life

Hello ! My name is Robert. I am new here. Thank you for sharing about boundaries. This is new to me. I am a new subscriber to you now 😃

Ma'am how to know that we are actually being disrespected by people or its our own ego triggered?? In order to set boundaries with them, I always this question in my mind ??

This message applies to a friend "over texting." Sometimes the texts are about things I could care less about, and I finally just put my phone on silent to not be held captive by her texting.

So glad I came across this video! I am the oldest of 4 siblings and the only one that have kids.

I have been trying to set boundaries with all of my siblings and everyone is on board except for the second oldest. After watch this video & another video of yours, I know exactly what needs to be done. Thank you for taking the time to post your videos! ❤

Listening to this and another video helped me to think about places where I have developed good habits for boundaries and where I haven’t figured it out yet. It is interesting. I think I take for granted that I made choices about certain things some years ago and worked hard to find a way to set a birdbath for myself to not let others affect my view of the day at the start, for example. I am remembering now that I had to take a few steps to prepare my attitude and take action to keep that boundary. No wonder I have had more satisfaction and success in my professional life than in some other areas where I have struggled more to do that work. Wow what an eye opener.

I stopped at 5 minutes - the same old same ol" BE POSITIVE!! DONT ENGAGE IN RUDE TALK..." ok, but very old hat. Been said to death. I also noticed your hair. It occurred to me that you are talking about BALANCE , yet your hair is so off balance. Let the other side down! One more thing, for a moment, you Were going to stand out , when u didn't beg for subscribers. We all know about subscribing. Let your magnetism be the salesman, not an extortion based on liking You ...people pleasing shouldn't be taught to your audience .
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You are a life saver. I let people cross my boundries so much that I became shaky and stressed 24/7 person. Now I know what to do. Thank you so much ❤

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This is the best I've heard! To take responsibility and NOT have guilt!

Hi, I’m Maria. Love this channel

Not to engagae too much!

Not my circus, not my monkeys. 🤣 I use it sometimes and love it! 
This subject goes so deep and reminded me of Andrew Kenneth Fretwell's book, Emotional Alchemy: The Love and Freedom Hidden Within Painful Feelings. 

There is this paragraph were he talks about boundaries

''Do you ever find yourself saying "yes" to things you don't really want to do, or feeling guilty about saying "no" to others? This can be a sign of an Earth imbalance within you.
The Earth Phase also has a lot to do with our sense of boundaries - our ability to confidently say "no" and "yes" in a balanced way. When we can calmly decline things that don't serve us, or embrace things that do, we're embodying the qualities of a strong Earth. When boundaries are not clear it is easy to experience disappointment and manipulation.''

Yes ! I need to set boundaries. I need healthy boundaries.

Hi, this is the second video of yours I'm watching on the same day (on the same afternoon ☺️) and again, the video is sooo useful!! I noticed an idea foowing in my mind: "that what should we learn at schools, mental health, boundaries, self management etc.. not literature and maths" 😅😆

I have a family member I have stopped engaging with. Every exchange is like a snake bite response from them. I’ve tried using positive tone of voice, positive words, and sincere interest. No good. I get no eye contact, one word responses, or snarky responses. Forty years of this roller coaster is enough. Finally feeling control over my responses and the impact of this person in my life. It helps that my husband sees it and supports me.

Hello Roxann! So glad for this help

I can't offer friends or family "visits or vacations at my home" they are quite upset. Yet they never invite me out or to their homes. My health is not good right now. I just beat cancer, have immune compromised issues and don't have the energy for company right now, much less the energy for in person long conversations. Definitely no overnight visitors. I said no & stuck to it. I doubt if they will ever ask again, but I had to protect my energy & health. I had to put myself first, for the first time.

I looked everywhere on the internet for an article where you listed these seven boundaries that everyone should have but I couldn't find it. Could you list them 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 because I think that would help me? Thank you.

I followed along yet I only have six boundaries. I don't know how to say this but other than to say you did ramble quite a bit I'm sorry but I just felt that way.

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At 33 I'm just learning boundaries 😲 😭
girl if I was a clothing line I would be called no boundaries 😂

We all have a breaking point.

I have my boundaries Julia.

My ex-friend Becky Keena always said to me I’m not trying to tell you what to do, but I always felt that she did.

I’m not that athletic either Julia being born with a disability, but I do some kind of exercise.

My ex-friend Becky Keena made under-handed comments and pulled me into her drama and made me a push-over.

haha let's pretend it's 1995 - love it

I can't see myself other than an obedient submissive.

Thank you owner il lay off the phone to many times owner

I prefer not to have a boundary an just do as I'm told to do owner

I'm pro matriarch society

I'm bound to the female I belong to I believe d for many years to the female ownr narcissist. It's how I should be that way

I truly appreciate you. I have been subscribed for a while. I just want to again let you know how significant your work is.

Im drained by my family dumping their mindless thoughts and small talk on me all the time. I feel bad saying no to that, because they're not doing anything "wrong". But it's really making me miserable.

"Do not make offers you hope will be declined" That's a whole word right there ... preach, sis, preach! 👏 👏👏

I've learned not to engage with closeminded people, as soon as I realize nothing will change your mind then I lose all interest in the conversation and openly cut the line and draw to a close. Things are so much better this way.

How does intentional non engagement and taking a step back to cool down differ from the silent treatment?

Xxxoo I adore you! I have been a people pleaser as the middle child of 8 kids. This spoke to me! The resentment is real!

Hello. My sister gave me your link. I’m a 67 yo male, continually learning.

Hi I am Korean Mohammed happy to be here.

all common sense advise ...

Since I stopped arguing over Politics on the internet and watching the news I found a newfound peace in my life

Hi there!! My name is Dara! And I'm learning for the first time of my life to set boundaries to myself and with the people surround me this will be a very challenging thing to do since I've recognize that I'm a people pleaser and for me it's very hard to say no! Thank you so much Julia for this video, I really appreciate it I have a notebook in which I'm writing down all the boundaries that I need for myself and I am adding the ones that you were talking about taking a step back and answer later, not offering things that you don't really wanna do, and saying no😊 Again, thank you so much and I'm looking forward to learn more from you! Blessings ❣️☺️

Do you want to make a narcissist go away? Set boundaries. When I did this with a person I was dating, the crap hit the fan. And they went on to someone else, I assume. They acted like a narcissist, demanding my attention immediately and at all times of the day, even though I work full time. Set a boundary and, puff, they disappeared. This is one way to weed out a potential narcissist.

"Not my circus, not my monkeys". 10/10

Yes, true and good.

So I have been directed here by a dear friend of mine, who used this resource to work through some deep stuff. I'm hooked! I certainly have a hard time with my boundaries, both with other people (namely NPD /untreated BPD/ DID people) and with myself. I've had enough encounters that I can't help but think to myself at times, 'why haven't you learned your lesson!' I over extend, ignore red flags and give empathy to the point where it overrules my spidey senses.... 'I should have see it coming'...then found myself gaslit, devalued and discarded. I know, I'm a kind, loving, strong and intelligent woman, with so much love and support to give. But to the point where I don't protect myself from the types of personalities that, in the end, make me feel awful..... So....this is exactly where I need to be right now. I'm willing to do the work, willing to grow and be a stronger, more emotionally intelligent version of myself. THANK YOU SO MUCH

What if preditors are using "intentional non-engagement" claims to justify their silence about their financial abuse? What if the predatory goal is to frustrate the conversation? Aren't you talking about people who have equal power when you say, don't agree to something when you don't really want to do it? I say this because powerless people can't say no; when they do, they get punished.

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