Romantic Relationships Coming from Freedom and Love

Thank you Rupert 😘

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"Do not hide behind love as a kind of excuse for being in a relationship where you have no purpose and destiny.

Do not think you can create your purpose and destiny with another, for We are speaking of something innate within you, something you did not create, something that was created for you and that has everything to do with who you are and why you are in the world at this time.

You may feel you have destiny with another, but you must see if you are truly compatible. You must move very slowly and not commit yourself. You must see if the other person is really ready, if they are really responding to a deeper calling, and if they can recognize this in you. Or are you just an attractive person, attracting them for the moment. Are you merely a pastime for them, an indulgence, a temporary involvement?

You must be very serious in these matters, for romance is a fool’s paradise with tragic results. You must be very careful with where you commit yourself and your life.

The real love will emerge with those with whom you share a real destiny, who are ready to participate and who have sufficient compatibility with you for you to take on the greater parameters and opportunities in life.

Real love is a product of honest and true engagement. This is the love that endures. This is the love that is true. This is the love that is lasting. This is the love that will carry you through your life and remind you that you are here for a greater purpose. This is the love that will make that purpose real and available to you."

The New Message from God - Love And Relationships

Rupert.. special message ❤️

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The schizophrenic play of consciousness:
The teacher is telling to the disciple to discover his true Self and in the second step to find out the nature of this Self, which has no form, no limit and which no knife can kill.
In other words:
Consciousness is telling Consciousness to discover Consciousness and to find the nature of Consciousness.
Crazy

Love Rupert, but good luck with that one, "I don't need you". Lol

It is sad to think that most people think that need is love, and they sustain fragile relationships on that basis, pointless really, and hard work I suspect

Many so-called romantic relationships issue forth from a self-perception of incompleteness seeking completeness from/through another person. Which invites the obvious question, why the self-perception of incompleteness in the first, originating place?

"I don't need you" - perfection!

I'm conflicted when it comes to this. I'm a 34 year old male and i never had a (romantic) relationship. Despite the attraction i feel for women, the idea of being with somebody all the time repels me. I'm an introvert and love to be by myself most of the time, as i can feel deeply fulfilled by myself. Yet, not having been in a relationship gnawed at me, so years ago i tried dating. But then i was even more repelled, because i immediately saw these women had some sort of image in their head that i needed to fulfill and that i myself did the same. So i quit dating and just accepted that i would be alone. Having meaningless sexual relationships do not interest me by the way. Now i see many relationships around me, in which partners tolerate eachother to make it work. Not a few, but all of them. All romantic relationships that i see have this to some extent. And again, it repels me. But still, there is also a feeling that i'm missing out on something. At least, sometimes. Other times i'm completely fine and i'm grateful i'm free and not in a manipulative relationship like that. Can other people relate to this, or am i alone in this?

sharing happiness, that's a good reason to get married

Most love relationships have paramnesia for their father and need for their mother.

This has been a game changer for me. I started seeing this woman recently who is the most beautiful person I’ve ever met and an incredible company. I noticed I started to become attached but became frightened that she could hurt me as she was too good for me and would probably suss me out as someone who can’t match her. I watched one of Ruperts earlier videos on this topic and it transformed how I relate to her. And she has noticed. She even said how she finds the fact that I am so quietly confident and secure very attractive and inspiring. If anything she’s become a lot needier of me! But that wasn’t the intent of me changing my view of course! Just make sure you don’t forget the first rule either - to express the understanding when you’re with the other person and share laughter and beautiful moments. That’s where the joy comes!

“To love is freedom, to want is possession”.

"When we touch our own consciousness in a full and open way, we are much better able to touch the consciousness of others. We see that awareness is far larger and more ancient than the space defined by our own mind and body. In a deep sense it is boundless, timeless; it connects us all to one another. We are conscious. That satisfies our yearning for belonging in a healthy, nurturing way, empowering us to be more fully ourselves and yet deeply related to others. You belong, as a birthright." -Hayes, Steven C. A Liberated Mind

A guy who looks like Ted Bundy teaching non-duality, absolute love, pure awareness, oneness with incredible clarity and zest. Isn't it ironical :p


Rupert is a legend of neo-advaita teachings. I am from Ramana Maharishi's place. I started with him. And I really did not understand all of Ramana's teachings because Ramana answered questions of different aspirants. He just answered their questions and he adjusted his answers keeping them in perspective with the questioner. I have no doubt Ramana would have answered my questions perfectly had I asked him directly. Unfortunately his physical presence has ceased.


I feel Rupert is doing what seekers like me want. Answering questions in simple, understandable and yet direct terms. He is a gift to mankind as was Ramana

There is only one true love and it's purest form in the world is simple, ungrasping friendship, whether it be between peers, parent and child, or human and pet. Romance, on the other hand, usually involves projecting fantasy and physical attraction, mistakingly associating the spirit with appearance, identifying the "other" as a body and wanting them as such. Let's not fool ourselves by giving romance more meaning than it has, it's a play of Maya.

To quote the Course in Miracles, "Perhaps you think different kinds of love are possible. Perhaps you think there is a kind of love for this, a kind for that; a way of loving one, another way of loving still another. Love is one. It has no separate parts and no degrees; no kinds nor levels, no divergencies and no distinctions. It is like itself, unchanged throughout. It never alters with a person or a circumstance."

this man... speaks with an authority that no one in the parliament ever will

Namaste 😊😉

Sounds like she's involved with someone who doesn't match her consciousness .. "demand a certain integrity from them"

This is absolutely what I need to hear. I have listened to this talk several times. I love the idea of testing my love and understanding. It is so frustrating though when the other party doesn't feel the same I do. They are fine with needing me and other's to validate them. How to practice when surrounded by people who are not on the same path?


I would love to teach my children this teaching. I am constantly trying to stretch them and would like them to be humans that are not NEEDY.

I say this to my partner all the time & he says men like being needed 😅😆 but maybe mine comes from an independent place of rejection unintentionally.

The questioner seems really wise. Seems like she would be a nice person.

I salute you for this Rupert. Salute. Salute.

I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.

Also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards. So sex isn't really a thing about romance.

I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner is. Also, you would more likely be much closer to a person who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a partner or spouse.

People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.

Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships, while there isn't that many toxic platonic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships, while abuse is rare in platonic relationships. So there is a lot of abusive romantic relationships, while there is isn't that many abusive platonic relationships.

Why do you think abusive romantic relationships have a term for them called "domestic violence", while abusive platonic relationships don't have a term for them? It's because abuse in platonic relationships are very rare, while abuse in romantic relationships happens a lot.

And also, a lot of people cheat on their romantic partners with someone else, while most people won't do stuff like that with their platonic best friends.

Wow!! This is gold

Hai there.. If we call it fredom or love.. Is it true that the love always waiting me, or searching me, or show me that we are love n beloved?? Please any one, help me... I fell that the pure consciousness always try or show me that who really i am and invite me to become one with all... Is that true sir?

Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information. Lots of love from an Australian 🇦🇺❤

Rupert, you are remarkable. I cannot thank you for the wisdom and understanding you so generously share with us all.

This subject reminded me of this passage I came across from a free online article called "Love and Relationships" by Marshall Summers

"It is certainly possible to feel great love for someone with whom you cannot participate in life, and in fact this is not uncommon.

Wow…beautiful. Thank you so much.
This was soooo very helpful!♥️

Yes, IF we were disembodied spirits who have transcended the human body and all its needs that have evolved over millions of years. And why is need so bad? It can be, as when it reminds us of those who traumatized us with their selfish need when we were children and were not there for our own need. But it can also be a foundation for trust, freedom and creativity, as the psychological data shows of couples with secure attachment (and psycho-evolutionary theory of attachment corroborates). The perspective here may be of avoidant attachment and be especially useful to people with that kind of childhood trauma, but in my opinion it is only a band-aid. The greater healing happens when we recognize our humanity and its need for pair bonding, for family, for tribe and village, IF it is possible to find a partner (unfortunately it has become almost impossible to find a village or tribe) who also recognizes their need and is willing to do the healing of trauma together. Here is Gibran on pleasure and need:
"And now you ask in your heart, “How shall we distinguish that which is good in pleasure from that which is not good?”
Go to your fields and your gardens, and you shall learn that it is the pleasure of the bee to gather honey of the flower,
But it is also the pleasure of the flower to yield its honey to the bee.
For to the bee a flower is a fountain of life,
And to the flower a bee is a messenger of love,
And to both, bee and flower, the giving and the receiving of pleasure is a NEED and an ecstasy.
People of Orphalese, be in your pleasures like the flowers and the bees."
What if the bees said to the flowers: "we don't need you"?

🙏I would change the term: "l do
Not need You".. it lS Not appropriate BECAUSE it gives lmpression of being self centered.. lnstead the more appropriate term lS: "l Am Not dependen on You".. lS freeing of expectation for both.. the former term gives NEGATIVE sense of c o l d n e s s and isolation .. While The later energy quality lS Opening up s p a c e for being c a r i n g and mantaining lnner Self Reliantce and lndependentcy while keeping genuine warmth between tow couple ..💖

Whenever I watch Rupert's video,I feel deeply calm ,I tune into his state .I experience of being aware with out much effort from my side😇

Connect with God first..

💖That STATE of Being in The Spiritual Awakening and in the Residing in That True Unconditioned Self lS VERY powerful for lndividual Soul to Arrive in Consciousness and lS The Ultimate Freedom from the world of duality of the human consciousness and of the false personal sense of self🙏Thank You Rupert for Clarifying that Essential Truth💖

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Neediness drives people away.
First become happy and complete within yourself.
Then engage in relationships to share that joy with others.

Thanks Rupert!

Rupert describes human behavior and the future in a realm of remembering internalizing and saying commands such as: "I don't need you!"
She says "I understand but these old patterns of behavior are still present"

Rupert describes remembering, internalizing, and saying commands as understanding-- which is the assertion of the ego identifying with meanings as opposed to consciously managing meanings and human behaviors.

Rupert's speaking covers up and displaces the divine feminine with egoic commands, assertions, and assumptions about the meaning of understanding. Ruperts's defense mechanisms indicate that he has conflated the divine feminine with alienation/rejection/abandonment/abuse.

The divine feminine is the experience and gaze for the internal feedback that reveals the depths beyond the surfaces-- including and not limited to feelings, sensations, emotional reactions, innate interpretations, and developmental needs.

The divine feminine is the fundamental basis for homeostasis, integrity, awareness, well-being, masculinity, response-ability, connection, workability, reality testing, science, medicine, and the service industry.

This is so applicable to me! I was so happy and content with myself before I met a man who excited me in such a way that I felt to share my happiness with. However as the relationship grew I am 😅finding myself getting more involved and wishing to have more from my partner than he is capable of giving. How do I turn around and get back to myself fully as I was before I met him? Because deep down I know that my partner is not and is ever likely to fulfill my expectation! Can Rupert help me please?

This is bollocks. If you guys are right, all sex is just masturbation, all love is narcissism. All meaning in the universe hinges on the existence of "the other".

Dear Rupert ! This is to me so very deep understanding of human nature ! It makes me very much aware, that I do not try to defend myself and keep on living the shared being even though the other one does not now, what it is All about ❤❤

I don't need you, but I love you

if love is the recognition of one shared being which is eternal, then who will recognize and share that being in the absence of localized self?
please Rupert give me your answer with this. I'm looking for your video about this , but I can't find. thank you so much my dear brother. ❤

Magic ⭐️

just classic but with compassion... seems like mostly the the women are ... well, anyway this was 4 years ago and only 117 comments... 8billon people on the planet yes? we're fucked... Perhaps that's why Buddah was always laughing!🤣

Beautiful!!!

Thank you Dear Rupert

Thankyou ❤