The narcissist plays dirty... should you play dirty too?

Thanks Dr. Ramani. Besides being a great therapist and counselor, you’re a very ethical person. A true role model so needed in this sick and corrupted narcissist society. We need more people like you.

I love dr ramani, but she sounds drunk...?
No offense intended

Well in my case the narcissist refuses to move out, so l can't separate myself from him, unless l will become the bad guy and will insinuate battery

I tried playing dirty but I'm just too honest. I can't do it. I cannot be disingenuous. He did bait me though and get me angry enough to physically attack him. I don't even regret it. He deserved worse than I gave him. And I'm the one in the wheelchair. It's kinda funny now because picture 2 older people in a physical fight, one uses a cane and the other is in a wheelchair. How much damage could I do? He can still walk faster than my chair moves. It was weird though because it's like he WANTED me to hit him. He just sat there. Guess that's the baiting. He got the emotional response he wanted didn't he?!!!

I guess I'm just colorable I know I may never hear from him again since hes with the new supply but I think I'm not sure but I think this may be a criminal woman be a criminal woman who's been in Google and some of the news reports show yet reports she was wanted in Florida and in Alabama. Now maybe she turned her life around I don't know I don't even know if he knows it but there's nothing I can do about that he chose her it's on him I hate the same get hurt but it was his choice not mine

Dr Ramani, after living with a narcissistic marriage for 25 years I got out and went into deep therapy. 5 years on I now know I was raised by a narcissist mother, now dead, and now know my older sister is one as well. How do I keep a loving relationship with my sister without hurting myself?

Never!! Ever!! I do tend to be overly empathic & feel burn out often, would I trade those traits in order to be narrciscistic!!
That would be my worst nightmare. Never happening, I'll take & own my own traits FOREVER!!
Forever grateful to you 🙏

it can be soooo liberating to just get it out there. but don't expect closure.

My narcissistic father is stonewalling me ever since I have a baby, so for nearly 2 years now. I am a 43 year old women and I am in serious doubt if I want my father in my life like this. I wanted to make a good effort to safe the relationship for the sake of his granddaughter. ( I used to be the golden child), but now everything collapsed and I realised what the game is he always played. Did he ever care about me at all? It's no less painful knowing, but I am relieved as well, as I am not alone.

The "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em" attitude is a big reason why the political atmosphere in this country is so adversarial right now. "Well, if this is how they're gonna behave, I'll just get down on their level and throw it right back!" The only instance where this sort of thinking has ever been useful is in war - and those who view everything as a war are probably already narcissists anyway.

Do narc secretly admire you when you interact normally with others, or don't take their bait and drama? I notice that mine used to track my comments on Facebook and criticize. Is like stalking, at the same time, showed disinterest. NC now, at their instigation, to avoid partner becoming aware of narc ways. But my choice now, disentangling myself finally.

In the world of narcissism general rules don’t apply!

Dr Ramani, what about the proverb “ the squeaky wheel always gets the grease” this makes me think so much of a narcissist.

You nailed that. I was married for 21 years to a golf pro/ bookie. We had a joint banking account at first. He never balanced or asked me what checks were out, so I had to get my own account. I am a nurse and all of the bills except phone, and country club were paid for by me. His health insurance and social security were paid for by me. When he was caught having an affair, I started getting anonymous death threats. I blamed myself for his affair and started working a day job I didn't like for less money, to work on the marriage. After about a year of that we divorced. It cost me 50,000 dollars in equity in our house. I didn't ask for child support. I knew he wouldn't pay it. I got death threats for 11 years. Probably because he was a bookie and I knew who bet with him.

It cost me relationships. He would cause problems at my work, start rumors. I ended up having to move because of death threats and no social support due to rumors.

Raised in N family and finally after a long time became just like them. Earned some respect from the narcs. Then I got a serious immune disease and needed to get rid of stress and stop manipulating everyone. So I went back to be HSP. Found myself stuck back with the abuse from the narcs. Now I use indifference and gaslighting back, but no manipulating. So still a little bit narc with narcs, but not everyday people.

Your reinforcement is so reassuring! Thank you 🙏:)

Can you open the translation and subtitles for this video, please? 🙏

There are tons of books out there teaching these qualities: 5a.m club, the subtle art of not giving a fuck and almost all how to become a better salesperson, Alfa man etc. my roommate reads them like eating popcorn and I can say he is an asshole. He tries to manipulate us, is very egoistic, closed on criticism and compromises. I gave up even talking to him cause each time I should have apologized for what he thought he read between line, which I didn’t say and even did not mean!

Please dr ramani, i can't open the translation and subtitles into Arabic for your videos, can you help me, please? 🙏🙏

My narc parents worked in finance and sales, and made a good amount of money. But I could never do that and get fulfilment out of working in social professions. I don't care if they have little regard for that as I do something that feels right to me and helps others.

This is the one promise that I will make. I will never make myself into a narcissist. EVER!!!

It means to stuck in the prison of constant war, of constant revenge and anxiety. Imagine your life - without any kind of relaxing, just constant fear and revenge. Living in a world where everyone permanently lying. . . darkness, I've been in the society for a while with my ex narc partner, all his environment which he choose was pathological. Why? not because of material level but because there was no love and no compassion, it was constant war. Constant fight, no mercy, just constant COMPETITION about everything.

Don’t act like these people. What goes around comes back around.

Stop engaging with them. Great advice!

For a long time I thought that’s the good approach. Made myself small, so hopefully they can’t even notice me. Got more and more illnesses. Now I got cancer. My sister doubted and from jealousy that I might inherit after our mother who is an ardent supporter of her, I was thrown out from the family home, they started a smear campaign and achieved my daughter side with them. After all I have nothing to loose, than be dirty as much as I can! They did everything to destroy me, so I’m not going down just without fighting. Not anymore…

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Do your best to respond and not react with self respect. If you react with the behavior, they dished out they will love every minute of it and win. I learned that from watching your videos. Thank you. Document,document, document.

Seems like evil wins on this planet.

I had these encounters with narcissists in schools, ever since I was in Middle school up until College, they really love to do smear and black propaganda campaigns and then gossip and accuse you of saying or doing something you never said and do.

and bonus: they all always happen to have Far Leftist and Marxist views.

Dr Ramani - you’ve used highly narcissistic tactics to acquire your fame and fortune. Let’s review:

1) you signed a deal to a PR/Marketing firm that spends a lot of money on manipulativr advertising to promote your brand, like your commercial with the most narcissitic people on planet earth - the Kardashians and Jada Pinket Smith.

2) you present yourself as the “expert” on narcissism and morally superior to narcissists which is highly egotistical and narcissistic. You also assume the authority to tell people how to live their lives, under the guise of “helping”, which is grandiose and typical of “altruistic narcissists”

3) like most narcissists, you are unwilling to admit that you are a narcissist because that would cause a massive narcissistic injury

My mother was a psychologist and narcissistically abused me as a child so I’ve developed a 6th sense for spotting frauds like you.

Oh and let’s not forget the lies you use to cover up your paid endorsement with the Kardashians - telling your audience that you didn’t know who they were before meeting them
LOL

Beautiful !! Masha'Allah Tabarak'Allah !!

No Thanks!.I dont want the Narcissist's FLEAS

EVERYONE ❤IS A NARCISSIST SOME USE THE POWER TO HURT 😢OTHERS WHILE SOME USE IT TO PROTECT THEM😊…. 💫❤️👌🔥 ( plus if these people are so obsessed certainly and great actors they will study everything about Narcissism and use it carefully manipulating others. ) U CANT CUT IT OFF ITS EVERY WHERE YOU NEED TO BE STRONG…

No one trashes your name better than someone who's afraid you'll tell the truth...

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And when you decide to stay, because you have to important reasons for that, what should we do? T stay in silence in front of all those people who know you very few, but are listening unbelieving the lies about us, being the parents from the school, being the colleagues from the work, being the neighbors from the neighborhood or to begin telling about your truth, the trurh, at least about yourself who is being difamanated. What to do about all those people who are innocently, believing all the lies about you

Never ever join the narcisist. Don’t roll in the mud with pigs.

Your Wish is my Command.

Misery loves company. Old saying, but powerful.

nope.
u cant go low enough.
take the high road, there's less traffic.

also, your kids will remember one day.

Mmm...leave then fight dirty in court

Dont join that shit

You hit a nail on the head. The world is much more toxic nowadays. Bless those who don’t have kids so that their kids have to deal with evil people out there.

I am glad that you are around Doc, at least we can listen to the wisdom that you share. The world gets darker and darker. Thanks to people like you who are helping abused survivors to heal and to go on with their short life on earth. Why trying to be miserable like them? Life is too short, why not enjoy this beautiful life instead of poisoning it and making other lives miserable? I just can’t believe that people can be that evil, ironically, as you pointed out, they are often in the positions of influence in the society, which can affect your jobs directly or indirectly. Why these people can get away with murder?

The world is more toxic. 😥

God sees and hears EVERYTHING ........be of the world or follow God's laws......heaven or hell.....we will pay dearly for harming others in any way.....

Two wrongs dont make a right...they will get bored and move on EVENTUALLY...

Hello Dr. Ramani,

I hear you have a little cold or allergies 🤧

I hope and pray you feel better soon.

Vitamin C, orange juice..

Or fasting or whatever ❤️

Goodnight
Dr. Ramani,

Your pal,
Ian Royball

Thanks!

Sometimes to go against a narcissist tho u have to fight them like them.u have to go behind their back and u have to be manipulative.sometimes its actually ket to your survival