The secret habits that control your life | Wendy Wood

"Dogs don't have too much conscious thought. I know, they look like they do, but they don't" - condescending nonsense.

CPTSD A part of me just believes nothing will change unless I Constantly on this. Like I said I need therapy

I'm amazed by how drastically the golden rule varies from one culture to another. For example, in Gujarat, where India's Modi is from, following the golden rule means tolerating abuse from family members quietly for the sake of maintaining harmony in the family. This standard of the golden rule is inferior to the standard to which I was raised, and there are cultures that have standards I consider higher than my culture's standards.

The examples provided were really on point and very relatable. Loved it

Very good content but isn't the title a bit (or more?) misleading?

💔 please, type in Greta Thunberg connects climate, ecological, and health crisis.

Ants don't take the shortest path but the easiest.

I really appreciate your videos, thanks :)

Train your brain to think not react.

So… mise en place?

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Video speed 1.5x ftw

The thumbnail for this video promises us a method to conquer bad habits in 16 seconds. But no such method is discussed. Instead we get the very generic information that we develop new habits by practicing them. Hardly a revolutionary thought.

Dogs absolutely have conscious thoughts, they just aren't the same sort of thoughts humans have. They are not thinking abstractly, or in any language but their own. But they are always imagining what will come next, and what they would like to happen, and how they might cause things to happen.

this video is so amazingly and beautifully made; the configuration of the message with the pictures/clips coming up at the time showing/serving as the easy to relate and understand examples of the things she's saying+ music....
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i developed this habit of jumping for atleast a minute right after waking up, its really uncomfortable so thats why i decided to do it to train my discipline. then, weeks passed and it became a part of my morning.

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So in order to change a habit u need to create another one

All she said is a condensed version of James Clear's Atomic Habits.

She mentionned : friction, habit (ofc she did), reward anticipation without necessarily mentionning the 4 stages of successful habit iteration etc. It's quite funny to imagine that the environment we sit in can actually be so meaningful to our general sense of productivity. The kitchen is the place where you eat as that's the habit that has been ingrained in your brains and the very first moment you see that place, just like a dog having been pavloved by the cookie and the and bell tingle, you know it's a spot that brings you happiness i.e. dopamine release and likely intuitively not the place where one would start working on his aerospace structure paper (or it can! you never know tbf)

She sad dogs have no consciousness? Why are you insulting me, human?

Darn! I gave up at 15 seconds

Good

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One second is enough.

anthropocentrism 44 seconds in.

Is this video slowed down or does she speak that slow?

This is going to sound dumb, but starting a skincare routine changed the course of my life. I had been in a depressive slump for 10 years with little to no progress in therapy, but I wanted to start taking care of my skin one random day. It gradually became a habit after I continued to do it for months. Then I started waking up and going to bed at the same time every day so that my skincare routine would be more consistent. Then I started making my bed every morning. Showering every other day. Cooking. Cleaning. Slowly, I kept building on top of this routine, and now my days are always planned and I feel so much better about myself and my life.

My advice is start small, don't try to change your life overnight. Start with the smallest thing that you find enjoyable and you know you can easily do everyday. Save the things that don't come easily to you for last. Mine is exercise and waking up early. Still working on making those things a part of my routine. :-)

Habits are the color pallet to life.. your basic habits combine to make much more complex results !!

this is what I've been searching for for the last 2 years, this is perfect video who want to control their habits

Why don't u cut the "Down" thing in the elevator, Always going up means more time, these "behavioral Scientists" !!!!!!!!!! use common sense

I thought my video speed was at 0.5 at one point

I'm not sure if it's just me but I had to play this video at 1.75x speed for it to sound normal.

This video's format was nicely done. Ms Wood is very well spoken and the appropriate images chosen to accompany her explanations make the subject easy to understand. I also appreciate that you focused on everyday habits, such as cooking, rather than an end goal.

I want whatever she is on because she giggles throughout the entire interview and it is cracking me up.

"We really need an environment that would make it easier to actually achieve our goals." I'm going use this comment somehow in my arguments with my daughter on why it's important to clean her room.

Habits are a way of short-circuiting thinking. We get things done without having to think about them. Sometimes this is a good thing but sometimes this is a bad thing. Sometimes it's best to break out of automaton mode and actually think about stuff. This is more difficult than it seems and sometimes it's painful or socially awkward but that's what leads to new insight. Too many people go through life on auto-pilot without stopping to pause to question things. It's easier that way but it's so easy that one can speed through life without really thinking about stuff. This allows other people to do the thinking for you. If those other people have good motives then that's not so bad but they don't always. I find it's generally better to think for oneself even if that means that less gets done. As long as enough gets done. Balance is important not trying to maximize the number of widgets one produces before death.

Sixteen seconds is a lifetime watching an elevator door close, watching grass grow, paint dry and water boil.

very misleading clickbait thumbnail...

This segment has triggered a recollection of my time as an office worker, when a close colleague and I, in our frustration with the unhygienic bathroom habits of other employees 🤢(ew, I know), attempted to display distasteful pictures in the restroom. Unfortunately, we received a reprimand from our boss for taking it too far. Sometimes, I imagine going back in time and delaying the flush handle of the toilet, 🤣, hoping it would somehow make a difference. Anyway, I'm currently struggling with time management, and it's negatively impacting my overall well-being and sleep. I'll make an effort to experiment and find a solution to this issue. I genuinely appreciate the insightful videos you share. Thank you so much. 😪🛏

Notice that, supposedly, this fundamental concept in psychology (actually behavioral science, which is NOT the same thing) is a metaphor, namely "friction". If your main concept is merely a metaphorical description (borrowing from physics) I would submit that you do not have a very deep understanding of the phenomena in question. If, for instance, in physics instead of using the concept of friction physicists used the concept of "reluctance" and said (metaphorically) that objects were slowed by their "reluctance" we would be rightfully skeptical and demand a literal description. Use of the term friction is actually a step backwards conceptually because it implies that minds are subject to physical laws, which was the prevailing metaphor a hundred years ago and was abandoned.

God is God. No matter how I defunct Divine Providence but the more I study Quantum Physics the more I see miracles.

Thank you for the video.

Isn’t the title a bit misleading?

Start small everyone.

How slow does this woman speak?

The company that implemented that elevator system is one that I wouldn't want to be a part of.

THIS IS NOT TALKING SLOW OR TALKING CONFIDENT. YOU ARE FAKING IT BUT IT IS NOT WORKING